Timing is Everything

I could have been a mom in February.

One of the women that I met with to discuss adoption sent me an email yesterday letting me know that an attorney friend of hers was representing a birthmom who was looking to make an adoption plan.  The father wants to relinquish his parental rights now, and the birthmom wants a closed adoption.  She's due in March, but her doctor believes she'll deliver in February!  Karen said that we would need to start our home study now so it could be completed in time.  The birthmom wants the adoptive parents to be a professional couple that she feels could offer a great life to the baby.  Ideal situation, right??  There's just one catch...

The birthmom is pregnant with twins.  Annnnddddd they're both girls.  I told Elvis and he about had a heart attack.  When we were going through the IUI process earlier this year, his greatest fear was that I would get pregnant with multiples.  I think it would be great, but he's terrified of going from no babies to two babies at once and not being able to provide them with the kind of life he wants to give our child(ren).  He was almost on board with the twins, but when I said they were both girls he said he would die of anxiety and that he wasn't ready to take that on in just two short months from now.  And I respect his feelings and concerns.  These babies weren't meant to be ours.  When all the pieces line up perfectly, we'll know that it was meant to be!

But seriously, can you imagine me becoming a mommy in two months??!!?  I mean I'd be broke as shit buying two of everything at once and having the expense of double diapers and formula, but how exciting!  Honestly though, when I really consider the big picture, at least if I was pregnant with twins I would have 8-9 months to prepare myself, my husband, my house, and my savings account for the addition of two little ones...and with a "just add water" family addition of twins, I just don't know if we would be able to make it work at a level that the birthmom would expect us to.

Anyway, I thanked Karen profusely, because everything about the offer was perfection, except the fact that there were two babies, and asked her to keep thinking of us if the same offer arises with a singleton.